"Most of us become parents long before we stop being children." -Lionel Kauffman
In our family, this statement couldn’t be more true. Jenny and I were practically babies ourselves when we got married and I shudder when I think of how naïve we were when Hannah came into this world. In fact, I remember looking at the nurse like she was crazy when she told us that we were discharged and could take our baby home.
But nothing asks us to grow up – over and over again – like being a parent. Suddenly the whole world looks different and you think that you are supposed to have all the right answers. But that mentality is the mark of a child. Because being a grown up doesn’t mean that you have all of the right answers. Quite the opposite, in fact. It means that you ask all of the right questions. It means that you are able to rise above the fray and see underneath the surface of things. It means that you are able to put away the childish things like pettiness and pouting so that you can pick up the tools of a grown up: patience and humility.
-Hal Runkel, LMFT, Author of ScreamFree Parenting and ScreamFree Marriage