“Patience serves against wrongs as clothes do against cold. For if you put on more clothes as the cold increases, it will have no power to hurt you.”-Leonardo da Vinci (1452-1519)
For some reason, we tend to associate patience with weakness. We may not say that out loud, but we certainly think it from time to time. Having patience with our children (and our spouse for that matter) doesn’t mean we just sit back and become the doormat of the family.
No. Having patience is more about being truly present in the moment and seeing things for what they really are. It is recognizing that many of the things that “push our buttons” or annoy us so much don’t have the power over us that we thought they did. We can then see that most of the power struggles we face with our kids are unnecessary. Your child’s tantrum or bad mood rarely has anything to do with you. Don’t take it personally. Instead, put on another layer of patience like a warm cardigan and truly become comfortable with yourself so that you can be comfortable with others.
-Hal Runkel, from the ScreamFree Institute